“Romanticize your life!” “Be the main character!” These days it seems as though it’s essential to adopt this lifestyle, otherwise you’re not living your best life.
When I first started seeing this trend, I wasn’t sure what to make of it. Although I will admit, the idea that we are all main characters can be fun and thrilling. It may lead us to embark on adventures, take more risks, etc, ultimately guiding us to embrace our true selves.
You’ve probably listened to people encouraging you to be the main character of your life, but maybe you shouldn’t romanticize your life. At least, not exactly.
This post is all about romanticize your life.
Be the Main Character
What does it mean to be the main character?
I’ve been seeing this trend all over and I have to admit, it is fun (and comforting) to believe in the idea that you are the main character of your life. Basically, having main character energy encourages you to act as the main character typically does: unapologetically and freely. It’s the idea that you should live your best life in this short life, encompassing your truth and breathing life to your own uniqueness and individualism.
You Are Not the Main Character
I can understand why this trend is as popular as it is because I can see why people feel moved by the idea of being the main character. It makes us feel important and in control of our lives. Believing is a constant reminder of this feeling. While it may provide temporary comfort, it’s equally relevant to remind ourselves that the world does not revolve around us in any capacity.
Even if you think it’s harmless to simply believe you are the main character of your own life, if everyone is thinking the same thing, you will clash with others. You are not the main character because we are not necessarily on solo journeys. No one’s life should be viewed in higher regard since that trickles down to how you’ll treat everyone else in your life.
Why You Shouldn’t Even Want to Be the Main Character
You are not the main character, but this doesn’t have to be a negative thing. Why would you want to be the main character anyways? They’re usually boring and annoying because no one fully grows with the self-centered notion that the world revolves around them.
Although you’re not the main character, feel free to still live your best life. I mean, it takes the pressure off to realize that nobody is paying as much attention to you as you may think.
“We are at the center of the galaxy only in our own tortured minds.”
Romanticize Your Life
What does it mean to romanticize your life?
To romanticize your life means to view it in a more magical or idyllic way. To view your life not as what it is, but as you wish it to be.
Thinking about what it means to romanticize your life is like the expression of viewing life with rose-tinted glasses. While doing this, your life and everything in it seems prettier, simpler, and more at peace. Even if that doesn’t match the reality of whatever you’re romanticizing, it’s just how things appear and translates to you when viewing life this way.
Is it healthy to romanticize your life?
It’s probably true that we all romanticize our life whether or not we are aware of it. This is especially true when we think about certain situations from the past.
For example, maybe you are no longer in high school, and whenever you reminisce you find yourself smiling, thinking of the good times or any fond memories. Maybe you think about going to football games with your friends, a class you found interesting, a significant day from maybe your junior year, etc. You feel and indulge in the good and skim over the bad in your reflection. The thing is, it’s easy to forget how much you might’ve disliked high school as well. Since you’re not currently living truthfully in your experience of those days, the past can be altered and changed in your mind.
When it comes to romanticizing life, despite how pleasant it sounds, it can be unhealthy. It may lead you to only remember or focus on the good things in your life, all the while disallowing you to see the full picture.
You might romanticize a quiet day off at home, focusing on little details to trick your mind into believing that everything is ideal and lovely, when things may not be that way at all. There should be a balance to everything in life, and over-romanticizing can foster naivety instead of genuine clarity.
Romanticize Your Life to an Extent
I’m not trying to tell you that it’s unhealthy to focus on the good in your life. At least, not exactly. Simply put: romanticize your life to an extent. If you take it too far, you begin losing the full view of your life; thus, hindering you from living and learning. It’s not natural for life to be perfect and romanticizing everything all the time may do more harm than good. This is especially true if you use it as an outlet to suppress your emotions.
Trust your struggle, and have faith that one day the dots will connect.
I’m also not trying to say that you should welcome pain with open arms. You don’t want to romanticize pain just because you got through it and you’re now in a better place. Never forget your struggles and past woes. Try to be aware of the full truth of every situation, particularly when it comes to romanticizing life.
Always remember that this place you’re in, ideal or not, is temporary. Nothing lasts forever, not even joy, and especially not pain and suffering. What I’m trying to say is, when pain intrudes on your joy, just remember that you will get through it. If you choose to have the courage to carry on every time this happens, you will get through it.
Remember also that when you’re trying to get through it, don’t close yourself off to emotions, even if it’s not the greatest. You should allow yourself to feel deeply. The goal shouldn’t be to be emotionless; rather, getting through hardships requires you to feel whatever it is you feel. This shows that you have heart and that heart of yours, full of your experiences, emotions, and even your flaws, reminds you that you’re a human being.
The only way out is through, truly, and when you are closer to the surface and you can break through that ocean and breathe again, allow yourself to. And take as long as you need. Heal thoroughly and intentionally. Give yourself time to heal, that’s the only way.
This post was all about romanticize your life.
